Wake Up In-Laws!

Dear Mother and Father in Law:

You are lovely.  You’ve welcomed me into your family and you give your 6th grandchild a lot of love and affection.  But why the HELL can you not buy her some things every now and then?  For her first Christmas, you gave us £40 in cash in a card for her ON CHRISTMAS DAY.  You couldn’t even give it to us ahead of time so we could actually buy something and have it for her to open!  She may have only been 6 months old at the time, but she still loved presents and opening them.  Cold hard cash is not quite so fun.  Other than Christmas and, so far, 1 birthday, you’ve never bought her anything.  Wait, I take that back.  You scrounged around Wilkinson’s to buy her a £1 colouring book to have at your house.  Yes, I forget, that’s all she needs, isn’t it?

You know that we don’t have much money.  You know what she likes to do, what her favourite shows are, what her favourite toys are.  You just went out this weekend and spent several hundred pounds on a new telly for your kitchen.  A gorgeous, flat-screen number.  Seriously, couldn’t you maybe have taken some of that money and bought a few things for your youngest, and potentially, last grandchild?  You know how much she loves Duplo and you now know how much it costs because I have told you.  Couldn’t you just take it upon yourself to drive to Toys R Us to buy her one of the sets that would just make her day? 

My family aren’t here.  They are very far away yet when we visit them or when they visit us, they bring gifts and things to make their granddaughter happy.  I’m not overly materialistic and I don’t think that our daughter should have too much but really, would it kill you to just buy her something FOR THE HELL OF IT.  It doesn’t have to be a holiday or special occasion to give someone something but apparently you think it does.  It’s not fair to deprive her of things just because you can’t be bothered.  I know you love her but think for a minute about buying her one or two things just because you can.  You are also aware of how keen we are for her to do something like Tumble Tots.  Couldn’t you possibly offer to pay for one or two sessions of it so that she can try it?  You know we can’t afford it yet it would be nothing for you.  I’d just really like, for once, for your grandchild to be spoiled by you.  That’s what grandparents are for, isn’t it??


Your Disgruntled Daughter-in-Law


3 Responses to “Wake Up In-Laws!”

  1. 1 Victoria March 1, 2010 at 4:07 am

    Oh my goodness, I can’t believe what I am reading….I thought I was the only one….LOL My in-laws can spend, spend, spend but do you think that they will send their grand-children even $5.00 for Christmas or birthdays. I’ve decided to give my kids’ presents and let them call and say thank you and maybe the grand-parents will get the point. Good Luck!!

  2. 2 parentconfidential March 1, 2010 at 2:45 pm

    Is she like this with all her grandchildren?
    For the next birthday can you ask her to buy something specific, e.g. you could say ‘your grandchild really needs a tricycle. We can’t afford one. Is there any chance you could get her this one from Toys R Us?’? Just a thought!

  3. 3 Me March 18, 2010 at 7:59 pm

    My in-laws are the same way! They will send a birthday card for one child one month and then forget another child a few months later (we have 5 kids) Some years they send Christmas gifts and some years they skip it. No rhyme or reason!!
    Thankfully my mom makes up for it 😉

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