This is my story

Where do I start? I could talk about the physical abuse I suffered at the hands of my own family or the sexual abuse I suffered as a teenage girl by someone I trusted. Reading back on my life it sounds like something you would find in those woman real story magazines. This isn’t just any women’s story, this is my story.

 I often got smacked about by my own Father who most the time was drunk , the tiniest thing would set him off. If I said I was going to phone the police he would hit me again. The flashbacks are hard to deal with , the thought of me cowering in the corner of my room whilst my Father raised his hand I just cant get out of my head. My brother got in on this abuse as both me & him got older. It’s true what they say like father like son. So when my Father wasn’t around I had my own brother to fear. He had different issues to my Father , he liked to threaten me with knifes and scissors. I was in the back room trying to escape from his violence, he stabbed at the door but that wasn’t anything new. All the doors in the house had holes in from where he had stabbed it or punched it. Oh how I wish I was stronger back then to speak up and tell somebody, but how would anyone believe such a loving and caring family would be capable of this? That is what people saw from the outside in. No one ever believed anything I said.

The sexual abuse happened at a youth club (I wont reveal its real name) I used to attend , I was 13 at the time so having a older man interested in me was flattering at the time. He bought me credit for my phone , paid for me to go on the various trips that my parents wouldn’t pay for and gave me lifts to and from the club. At the time I didn’t know what he was trying to do , how was I to know what he was doing was grooming me?

The first time something happened was on a camping trip , I left my tent to go to the toilets and he was there. That’s when it first happened and of course at the age of 13 I was not aware of what actually happened, back then I was innocent until of course he stole my innocence off me. Of course it was to be my little secret , that’s what he told me. I wont beat myself up thinking about why I didn’t tell somebody/run away.

Of course I carried on going , it was 2 nights a week I didn’t have to be at home.

It carried on in secret , he would single me out often to do stuff with him like clean out the stores. He never raped me but I always thought he was going too , and like everything else at the time I would not of known it was rape.

We got caught at another camp , he sent me a text message whilst I was using someone else’s phone it told me the place I was to meet to him. The messages had stored to this someone else’s phone, they saw and confronted us both but she wasn’t confronting us both. She was confronting him , he was meant to be her ‘secret’ boyfriend. She was 15 and later I found out she was having sex with him but she never admitted to it.

All of it finally can out in the open when some girls got suspicious as they saw me meet him around the corner for my lifts home. They hacked into my messenger account where they talked to him and found out what happened , after they told me that they knew I went to someone high up in the club who was also a Mother. I don’t know why I didn’t go to her sooner. I told her everything , she listened and then called the police.

 I will never forget the time the police came around and sat me down and helped to tell my parents what had happened. At the time it was embarrassing, I cried for weeks on end. I had to talk about it and when I say talk about it I had to give the intimate details. It was a truly horrifying experience. I never had to go to court Thank God , By now I was starting to know the ways of the world and I saw/read stories of worse things that have happened to girls my age. The last I heard he was put on the sex offenders list and was not allowed to work with children ever again.

I saw psychologists these came at the same time I hit the depression/suicidal route. This past has been dealt with and I have moved on, I used to think I was damaged goods until I saw sense and realised that the people who committed these horrendous crimes towards me were damaged. I never had any control of my childhood , mentally I have deleted all of my life before the age of 18.

Writing for me has been a therapy outlet , If there’s something I want to get off my chest I just write it down. Even if I don’t hit that publish button I feel like I’ve released a part of me. A bad part of me that just shouldn’t be locked anywhere and not told to anyone. I experienced so much and at such a young age , please don’t feel sorry for me. If anything it has taught me to be the person I am now. I am thankful for what I have now.

My life begins today.


15 Responses to “This is my story”

  1. 1 jfb57 July 15, 2010 at 8:09 am

    A very powerful piece of writing that truly inspires! You have really gone through an awaful, awful time but you have also turned things round thorugh your writing. I do hope yours is a blog I follow as you are a talented writer! Good luck!

  2. 2 Mummylimited July 15, 2010 at 8:38 am

    I am in awe that you managed to come out the other side of this terrible start. So sad. I am constantly shocked by what people can do to their children.
    It sounds as if you were very brave and thank goodness that someone was prepared to do something.
    I hope writing this piece was theraputic. It is an extremely powerful piece of work.

  3. 3 Bumbling July 15, 2010 at 8:46 am

    I am so pleased you have found an outlet, so pleased you are able to put your past behind you. So sorry for what you have been through.

    And so hopeful for the wonderful life you have ahead of you.

    Thank you for writing this, for sharing.


  4. 4 Paula July 15, 2010 at 9:35 am

    Despite the terrifying nature of your story, this post has a really positive feel to it. You’ve found a way to release your past and start to move on – that’s brilliant. It’s that release that’s so important – letting it out, rather than drowning in it. Well done for having the strength to get yourself to this point and good luck for the future, I’m sure it will be good. Pxx

  5. 5 Susan Mann July 15, 2010 at 9:50 am

    I think you are amazing, to have shared this, gotten it out and to have come out the other side. I hope from this point on, you life continues to get better and better. Keep using your vent to get things out, keep talking and keep believing in yourself. xx

  6. 6 Vonnie July 15, 2010 at 12:02 pm

    I think you’re so amazing. Wishing you all the love, strength and good times in the world x

  7. 7 TheGlutton July 15, 2010 at 12:17 pm

    I so admire your ability to not only confront your past but also to share it so honestly. I am so glad that you have found a healthy and insprining way to release these awful experiences. With every best wish to you for the future.

  8. 8 PippaD July 15, 2010 at 1:19 pm

    Hugs, its all I can offer other than seeing how strong you are.

  9. 9 Katie July 15, 2010 at 4:06 pm

    What an incredibly brave post. I hope you are surrounded by love and care in your life as an adult.

  10. 10 Tatjana July 15, 2010 at 4:55 pm

    So powerful to read – this essay must have been a long time coming! I wish you all the best for your new today!

  11. 11 Young Mummy July 15, 2010 at 6:25 pm

    I’m so glad you find writing helps you work through what happened to you. I think you’re amazing to be so strong, and a real inspiration.

  12. 12 mummyfiles July 15, 2010 at 6:50 pm

    I can only admire what strength you have to move on from your very tough childhood, you are so couragous.x

  13. 13 Susie July 16, 2010 at 2:04 pm

    Wow-I am so proud of how string you have come out of this. I hope you use your experiences and your strength to help other women and kids.

    Lots of hugs.

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